The way we are currently living is completely different from the way we were living back in March 2020. In the blink of an eye, things have drastically changed. Up until the middle of March, we were living what we called “normal lives.” We went to work; our children went to school; there were extracurricular activities to attend; we went shopping; planned fun social activities with our families and friends, and, most importantly, we went to church every week. We were hearing some news about some virus in China…nothing to worry about; China is far away from us. But then the virus started spreading, getting closer and closer to us. Suddenly, without much notice or preparation, we were in “lockdown.” Schools closed. We were working from home, ordering groceries online…etc.

We presumed everything would be over soon —  like an extended snow day or two. For many of us, working from home was a good thing. But I soon realized it wasn’t good for everyone. I remember feeling sorry for many of my coworkers who had small children. I could see and hear them trying to participate in our meetings while simultaneously tending to their young children. I thought to myself, I am so glad I don’t have younger children that I have to constantly help or entertain. Teenagers are independent and we don’t have to focus on them as much. This quarantine thing will not be so bad in my house. I will just have extra time for myself.  I was so wrong.

What a relief when school was finally over and summertime was here. While plans were a bit sketchy regarding our activities, I basked in the thought of finally staying home and doing things I’ve always wanted to do. However, making the effort to ensure my teenage daughter was successfully handling a global pandemic shifted those plans. The reality is that COVID-19, like any other crisis, has emotionally affected not only adults but children as well.

Due to the current situation with COVID-19, mental health issues such as depression and anxiety have significantly increased, especially in teenagers. It is important for parents to watch for signs or patterns of behavior that might show that their teen might be suffering (frequent anger or rage, irritability, staying isolated are a few examples). Seeking professional help, if deemed necessary, will be a must. Healthychildren.org, from the American Academy of Pediatrics, recently published an article, “Teens & COVID-19: Challenges and Opportunities,” during the outbreak. It gives suggestions on how parents and teens can work together to create a “new normal” during these challenging times.

The mental health of children and teenagers is important in promoting healthy growth into adulthood. In a time of crisis and uncertainty — like what we are currently experiencing — it’s essential to take time to help them navigate life’s challenges. Here are a few suggestions I’ve applied:

• Keep children’s routines as consistent as possible, and ask them if they understand their current situation. 
• Allow them to express their feelings and emotions.
• Maintain healthy communication with your children.
• Prayer is a must. Pray with and for them and share encouraging Scripture verses.

The American Psychological Association has resources available to help children in crisis. For more information visit www.apa.org. New York Times columnist, Dr. Lisa Damour, offers suggestions on how teenagers can protect their mental health during COVID-19 (www.unicef.org). 

We need to remind our children that God is in control and that He has a perfect plan for our lives.  Let’s remember Psalm 46:1 states, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”

And, when we feel anxiety overtaking us, let’s remember Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything.” We don’t know how long COVID-19 will affect the way we live our lives, but we do know that there is a heavenly Father that loves us and has everything under control. Our children will learn from us how to deal with crisis and unrest. Let us deal with it honestly, humbly, and full of trust in Jesus Christ. 

Helpful Websites

www.Healthychildren.org

www.apa.org

www.unicef.org